Trishna Ghosh Bista, Clinical Psychologist at Mental Hospital Lagankhel, Lalitpur, Nepal

Anger a five letter word starting with a vowel and ending with a consonant, If it isn’t handled appropriately, it may have destructive results for both you and your loved ones. Uncontrolled anger can lead to arguments, physical fights, physical abuse, assault and self-harm. On the other hand, well-managed anger can be a useful emotion that motivates you to make positive changes. Do you ever wake up angry? It might be because you didn’t sleep well, or because you know you need to go to work or school and it stresses you out. The whole day, everything and everyone gets on your nerves and you just want to lunge out and punch someone.

Many people express their anger in inappropriate and harmful ways, including:

Anger explosions – some people have very little control over their anger and tend to explode in rages. Raging anger may lead to physical abuse or violence. A person who doesn’t control their temper can isolate themselves from family and friends. Some people who fly into rages have low self-esteem, and use their anger as a way to manipulate others and feel powerful.

Anger repression – some people consider that anger is an inappropriate or ‘bad’ emotion, and choose to suppress it. However, bottled anger often turns into depression and anxiety. Some people vent their bottled anger at innocent parties, such as children or pets.
Suggestions on how to express your anger in healthy ways include:

➢ If you feel out of control, walk away from the situation temporarily, until you cool down, cause whatever you say or do during the aroused stage, would lack logic, you might have to repent later and you have heightened chances of rationalization by stating that one did not intend to.

➢ Recognize and accept the emotion as normal and part of life.

➢ Try to pinpoint the exact reasons why you feel angry.

➢ Once you have identified the problem, consider coming up with different strategies on how to remedy the situation.

➢ Do something physical, such as going for a run or playing sport.

➢ Task of mental control: counting backwards,

➢ Snapping a rubber-band, so that your mind gets diverted from anger to pain.

➢ Insight to the consequences is another very important strategy to withhold anger.

➢ Half smile technique is another strategy to control anger when you are in such situation where u cannot use any of the above, In this strategy what one is supposed to do is smile when being provoked simultaneously one needs to have a thought where the intention of the provoker is minimized.

➢ See a counsellor or psychologist if you still feel angry about events that occurred in your past.
Smile as it increases your face value whereas anger make you look ugly!!


The Author is Clinical Psychologist at Mental Hospital Lagankhel, Lalitpur, Nepal. She can be reached at [email protected]